Dear Mr. Made Right,

First of all, I am not calling you Mr. Right. As much as I believe each person is destined to be with her Mr. Right or his Ms. Right, I doubt anyone is "born right" for you.

In between the moment I let out my first cry up until this point in my life where I am nearing the quarter of a century mark (gasp!), thousands of circumstances have already come and gone and have shaped me into who I am today. The 16-year-old me is so different from the present me. I could have been "wrong" for you back then, but who's to say what the stars have for us now?

Second of all, Mr. Made Right, I am a firm believer in God's perfect timing. While I feel that that is a phrase many release too casually, I hold on to it like a child clings to his mother's hand on the first day of kindergarten.  If we have not met yet, I am confident there is a reason why. I probably need more work, maybe we both do. Maybe we are at a point in our lives where our faith is not fully seasoned enough for us to step on to the next journey just yet. Maybe, maybe. But there is definitely a reason.

Third of all, when we do meet and you decide you want to pursue me (haba ng hair), please be patient with me. I probably won't make it easy, admittedly, because I am still a girl and I will tend to overthink. Are you "The One"? How will I know? What if there's someone else? How will our future look like if we end up together in the long run? Why aren't you texting with smiley faces?!

When you don't hear from me the whole day, I hope you don't sit on your man ego and not reach out to me "just because I didn't initiate the conversation first". Send me good morning texts to start my day, and good night messages that leave me smiling as I drift off to sleep. Excuse me, pakiligin mo naman ako! Charaught. When at times you feel I am being distant, I hope you will find strength and patience to deal with my distress. Pursuing me means pursuing God, too, maybe even pursuing Him more. You can only really get to my heart if you have God in yours.

Fourth of all, MMR, pursuing me also means that I won't be pursuing you. Wow, taray! Sometime last year, I came across a blog post by Ann Luna where she declares to a boy that she will never do the pursuing because that's simply not her part. I agree. So, dear MMR, when we finally meet, please do not expect me to chase after you. I will not force situations just so the two of us could be together. Even at the height of gender equality and feminine rights, I will still not do the pursuing. Call me old-fashioned, but the whole courtship process trumps modern dating (Tinder, anyone?) any day in my book. Swipe right? More like swipe wrong.

Fifth of all, I will care about you and what you do for a living. I sincerely hope you love what you are doing, and are not just going through the motions of the day with only that end-of-the-month pay check as your source of motivation. People say passion won't necessarily (and quickly) pay the bills in the beginning, and maybe they're right, maybe they're not, but I pray there is heart in your work.

I hope that you are in a place where there is favor upon you, where you feel fulfilled, and where your faith can grow. You might have already found your calling in your career, and that is fantastic! But if you feel as if you could still use a little push, you can rest in the thought that I will be right there with you with a push of encouragement and a tight embrace of support. I will care about you and what you do for a living because it will affect us today, and the tomorrows of our future family.

Speaking of family, I come from a very lovey-dovey family. So sixth of all, I want you to know that family plays a big, if not the biggest, part of my life. It will matter to me how you treat your mom, how you respect your dad, and how you get along with your siblings, if you have any. On that same note, how you connect with my own family (both my biological family and my dance family!) and how I connect with yours is also of utmost importance. So, MMR, better play your cards right (dun dun dun) :p

Seventh of all--and take special note on this one-- I pray that your love for God is infinitely bigger than what your love will be like for me (assuming you will love me... yan tayo eh. Lol). I would like to believe I am an open-minded person. Having been exposed to different cultures and people abroad all throughout college, many of my perspectives on life have been somewhat altered through the years. But one thing remains non-negotiable for me when it comes to choosing the man I would hopefully someday marry: for him and I to share the same faith.

I long to be at the same spiritual wavelength with you. I want us to go to the same church every Sunday, raise our future kids in the knowledge of God, and have nightly prayer and devotion time together as a family. To walk in unison on the same spiritual ground will mean the world to me. People who know me well know how much I value my relationship with God. I want my future partner to not only respect that, but to be able to understand it and share it with me as well.

Finally, Mr. Made Right, I have been praying for you. My parents have been praying for you. My sisters have been praying for you. My dance teacher has been praying for you. And if we're being honest, I think there was even a point when my Lola was begging God for you, on my behalf, probably out of fear that I'd grow into an old cat lady who lives by herself (and well, her cats).

Whenever I would pray about you, I would ask God to bless whatever you were doing at the moment. Like, at that exact moment. Whether you were in your car driving along the highway, or in your office clocking in extra hours, or at your house watching your favorite TV show (which I honestly hope is Friends or Modern Family). But for all I know, you were probably fast asleep while I was praying. So that wonderfully blissful dream you had in your slumber? Yup, that was all thanks to my prayers. You're welcome.

Kidding aside, I really have been talking to God about you. I may not know your name yet (any chance you're called Ryan Gosling?), where you live (are we even in the same country right now?), what you do (is being awesome listed on your resume?), how old you are (wouldn't it be super freaky but super cool if we shared the same birthday?), what you look like (any chance you look like Ryan Gosling?).. But I do know that whatever your name is, wherever you live, whatever you do, however old (or young?) you are, and whatever you look like, if God is in charge of our story, you will be made right for me.

No one is 100% perfectly crafted to the exact liking of another. Some will come close, possibly even deeming them worthy of being called your "soulmate". But even the best pairings and the sweetest relationships will take work.

Not one of us is "born right" for our future partner. Not me for you, not you for me. If two people are already "perfect for each other", then really, what's left for God to work with? Dare I say, two people can't be perfect for each other, but over the years, they can be made right for each other.

That'll be you and me. And ours will be my favorite story.

Love,
Ms. Always Right
LOL okay fine, "just kidding" :)

Love,
Laura

P.S. Dapat you're also funny din pala.
Thanks